Our Story

I grew up in small-town Texas with a very traditional view of relationships. You date, you fall in love, you get married, and that's it. I never questioned it. I didn't know there was anything to question.

Rich and I got together in college. We were young, in love, and building the kind of life everyone around us expected. After we got married, we moved to the East Coast, started careers, bought a house, had kids — the whole thing.

And then, in 2010, Rich brought up the idea of opening our relationship.

I didn't take it well. Not at first. I was confused, hurt, and honestly a little scared. But I also trusted him enough to have the conversation — and keep having it.

Over time, we started exploring what non-monogamy could look like for us. Not based on any book or framework, but through a lot of awkward, honest, sometimes painful conversations. We made mistakes. We hurt each other. We also grew — individually and together — in ways I never expected.

It's Been a Rollercoaster.

There have been moments of deep jealousy, miscommunication, and real doubt about whether this could work. And there have been moments of unexpected joy, connection, and the kind of intimacy that only comes from being truly seen by someone.

Rich and I have stayed committed to each other and to our family. Not because non-monogamy is always easy, but because we've learned how to do it in a way that works for us.

In 2022, I started sharing our story online — first on TikTok, then Instagram, then Substack. I wasn't sure anyone would care. But it turned out that a lot of people were having the same questions we had, and very few people were talking about this stuff honestly.

Since then, I've connected with hundreds of thousands of people. I've had long conversations with individuals and couples who are navigating this for the first time, or who've been at it for years and still feel like they're figuring it out. Their stories have shaped how I think about all of this just as much as my own experience has.

That's what led to Openly Committed — and to matchmaking specifically. I kept hearing the same thing: it's hard to find people who get it. People who are ethical, communicative, and actually available. People who understand that non-monogamy isn't just about dating more people — it's about building relationships with more intention.

So now, Rich and I are building something together to help with that. He handles the technology and operations. I handle the human side — the conversations, the vetting, the matching. We're both all in.

Whether you're just curious about non-monogamy, actively exploring it, or deep into it and looking for better connections — I'm glad you're here. This community deserves more honesty, more care, and more support. That's what we're trying to build.

Thanks for being here.